A short while ago I wrote a story on Love post Noughties asking the question, What is Love in our modern day and life. Other then the occassional view by a few readers, not too many at all, I found the obligatory follow up question. What is romance in the post-noughties?
Romance has been disintegrating since Generation X and is continuing to deplete in its traditional sense, the idea of chivalry is indeed dying, despite many men still clinging onto it as part of who they are. I believe that feminism is to blame for this shift, or even the perception of what feminism means.
For example say a man would open a door for a woman, it could be taken as the man is expressing his dominance over the woman indicating that she could not open the door on her own; whereas the man might see it as being traditionaly chivalrous.
I consider myself both a feminist and a love of Chivalrous and romantic gestures, I do not consider it an insult to be paid for on occassion, or to have a door held open for me. However the concept that I could not pay for such a meal or if I was depending on it to be paid for would be an insult to my view that women should be able to stand independently and not have to worry about money if suddenly they were without the assistance of a man, or even the man for those dependent on government funding for the basics of life.
In any case the simple acts of chivalry are being guilted out of society by the very people who they are intended to please, the women. So romance in itself is being harder to create, even with someone a person cares deeply about they find themselves worrying about political correctness. Holding a womans hand, opening a door, buying dinner all are these chivalrous acts being taken out of society and those participating are being laughed at for attempting them.
Romance, I am still a big fan of it and I hope this political correctness which seems to now be extending to our personal lives disperses soon enough.
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